Chapter 11: Love, A Subjective Matter

Assalamualaikum and good afternoon everyone,

Till then I seek for it

What’s love actually means?

It’s…

Too general

A feeling that… Nobody can explain it properly

They called themselves as love experts

But still

Only some really understand about it

It’s all about experiences

And my heart

Is already empty for it.

    Whether you’re just a mere realist, idealist or both, somehow you can’t justify it when you want to talk about this. “LOL! Everyone must fell in love at least for once,” some say about it but I think there are just a few of people out there who already found their beautiful path and stay together in a form of blissful matrimony. I believe some of you had fallen for this at least once. If you are still ‘virgin’ from this one ‘annoying’ feeling I can say, congrats to you! Just waiting for your future husband/wife to enlighten your life with full of happiness, Inshaa Allah one day.

    The term itself is an abstract one. You can say everyone has their own way to convey this sacred link based on their experiences, like most of my friends said to me before;

        Experiences makes one become a mature being

    There are some who when talk about love, mostly they tend to talk about couple, marriage and anything about two people fall hard towards each other. Maybe just a few who talk about love in different aspects other than a lovey-dovey kind of relationship. Let me tell you just a few situations. One of my weaknesses is I easily fall in love with someone but when I already have someone beside me, I tend to be not a serious lover at all. In other words, easily to play someone’s heart, which is not a good thing for me. When I think back of what I had done in the past, I’m such a buffoon towards myself. I also have a crush once but I know that he’s not the one for me so I just let it be. I had confessed to someone if I not mistaken, twice but then, you know it. They rejected it. The words at that time, I just keep it as a secret for myself. Till now, I talk normally with them as one of my best friends and that feeling eventually fade away with time and from that last words, I already determine myself to focus the main goals at ease and yes, I know after this, it’s hard for me to fall again. Let Allah decide who the chosen one for me and I will always pray for the best for me and also for others. Hahaha… Okay. Stop about that insignificant blabbering, back to the main topic shall we?

    Love is a subjective entity if you ask me. I’m not a love expert but I can share some of it based on my experiences. For me, love is more like you are trying to care about someone in a different approach, even sometimes it may annoy someone else in the process; stalking one’s social media, monitor them from afar and somehow, you tend to change your attitude a bit for that one person than your other friends around you. Ehhh… Nope… CHANGE A LOT! Sometimes, when he/she is already with someone else, you will feel insecure, jealous, being inferior about yourself. Even to the point when you imagine yourself with that particular person in the form of dreams or daydreaming or even worst, hallucinate about that person. Now that’s why I called it as a serious psychological disorder;

Obsessing towards a person who we don’t know if he/she is the best for you

When you say you love me

Know I love you more

When you say you need me

Know I need you more

Boy I adore you~

I adore you~

Hahaha… I just took this one but it simply describes about that term a bit. When you adore towards someone, you are trying to give your best shot in order to make your love one happy. But, did you forget something more important than this? Who should we love the most? Some may forget about it as they are almost blinded with the beauty of love in their own world without worrying about their surrounding which is maybe not a good thing for them. Before you love someone, think again. Do you love your parents or you are already forgetting them? How much our affections towards Allah or you already walk further from His mercy? Do you care about your parents more than anything? Do you being faithful to your one and the only Creator? I keep asking myself again and again that somehow, I cried in silence when thinking about my sins towards my parents and Him. Who says that you can’t fall in love with someone? Nobody constrain your freedom from loving someone as long as you’re being faithful with your parents, taking care of them like a child needs too and get blessings from them and Allah SWT. If you cannot fulfil your duty as a child should do towards his parents and family and be a faithful Muslim, it will become harder than you’re expected to be. Most of us ignore about this as they think it’s just a small matters for them but actually, it’s a real deal that you cannot messed up by your childishness or immature thinking. This one, is really a serious matter. 

Love to our Creator

Love towards our parents

Love towards our family

Love towards our friends

Then…

Fall to the one who’s suitable for you.

Till then, we need to remember who we should prioritize the most. Get the blessings by being faithful and work hard for your parents, make them proud about your achievements, always take care about your family and friends, be a better person, always upgrading ourselves in becoming a great Muslim in the eyes of Creator. Then, after you have done all that, find someone who will enlighten your happiness till Jannah, Insha Allah. Bear in mind, when you do good deeds towards Allah SWT and people around you, Insha Allah, you will have an eternal calmness that you had never feel it before. Seeking His forgiveness and remember, care about yourself more than care about someone else as you’re a beautiful soul, my dear one. Simply to say;

        Love yourself…

P.S: It’s just my opinion only. My usual sayings, everyone has their own opinion. So, respect their opinion☺